By Sangeeth Sebastian
Last week, a woman in Bangalore was allegedly raped by a cable TV operator to fulfill his 25-year-old wife’s porn fantasy. The news may seem disturbing to many.
But shock
apart, what the incident really brings to the fore is the disconnect between
Generation P, children of liberalisation raised on a staple diet of coke and porn and their parents who often cringe at the prospect of any open discussion
on sex. The rift is as deep as the metaphorical divide between India
and Bharat.
Today, unless
you are an avid porn watcher, it is a safe bet to say that you have no idea
what’s out there on the web and how easy it is to watch. All you need to know
is just a few key words and the digital search engine genie will fulfill your
wish in seconds. Just type ‘porn’ into Google and you get 36, 70, 00,000
results in 0.38 seconds including hard core videos that cater to all
conceivable perversions and pleasures.
But does that make all those who watch porn a potential
rapist? Human behaviour is far too diverse for such simplistic generalisations.
Yet there is a growing body of evidence that watching porn right from a young
age can alter children’s attitude towards sex and sexuality. (All the more
reason to commission a study on the influence of porn on young minds in India and make
sex education a compulsory part of the school curriculum.)
The
accused woman in the Bangalore
rape case reportedly wanted her husband to satisfy her desire to watch ‘live
sex’ by seducing her best friend who stayed next door.
The
truth is women too now get turned on by explicit sexual representations, not
just romance novels. No where was this more evident than in the overwhelming
popularity of E.L. James’s Fifty
Shades of Grey, which dealt
with coercive sexual fantasies. The international bestseller, which emerged
from the fan fiction community, known for its wide variety of non-consensual
sex fetishes, was a favourite Metro read for many Indian women during their
office commutes. So are porn sites such as Nofauxx, East Van Porn Collective
and Cash Pad series that purportedly cater to the needs of their “growing women
audience.”
But as
the story of the Bangalore woman, who is now cooling her heels behind bars
along with her husband on charges of abetting rape and being present when the
incident occurred, shows, getting excited by a fantasy is one thing and wanting
it in real life is another. Arousal is not consent.